There will be people in your life that you are never going to please.
It is just a fact of life unfortunately.
The earlier on you figure this out, the better.
The earlier on in your life where you can be comfortable with having a person point out your shortcomings even if it is the smallest of items, the better.
You could be the next Mother Teresa, and there will still be someone saying you didn’t help enough people, you didn’t help this person, or you didn’t provide enough for so and so, etc. - in fact, this did happen often to Mother Teresa…
These people aren’t necessarily wrong.
They actually might be 100% correct.
Their criticism is more than likely accurate.
And that is A-okay.
Sometimes they also don’t see the larger picture.
They don’t know all that it took to accomplish what you accomplished.
In some cases, they come from an overall negative place. I always hope this isn’t the case, but it does happen.
And more often than not, the criticism will come with no thoughtful solutions. Only the criticism.
It is sometimes hard to distinguish between criticism from people who are genuine vs. people who criticize to criticize.
Most people that are genuine usually offer a thoughtful solution or approach as to how to accomplish the shortcoming.
In my experience, that’s the distinguishing factor.
So my best advice when you come across these types of situations is to listen, say thank you for the opinion, and simply move along.
Do your best not to spend too much time worrying or fretting or getting worked up.
If the criticism is something you can fix easily, just go ahead and do it in short order. You might know of an easy solution, and if that’s true - then great!
Other times, you will have to pass on doing anything to fix the said critique. It might not be the right fit..
The next time you feel as though you are doing a great job, you knocked something out of the park, or you feel as though everything went as planned…
Expect a criticism to come. Because it will.
How will you handle it?
Will you get worked up?
Will you spend hours thinking about it?
Will you be frustrated?
Or will you listen, say thank you, and move along?
Week 11 of 52
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